How to support your child through school exam results

10th August 2026

Exam results day can bring a mix of excitement, relief, worry and uncertainty for young people. Whether they’re collecting GCSEs or other qualifications, the day can feel huge. As parents and carers, it’s natural to want the best for your child, but the support you offer before, during and after results day can make a big difference to their confidence and wellbeing.

“School results day can bring a mix of emotions for young people and their families. While it’s natural to focus on grades, it’s just as important to remember that exam results are only one part of a child’s story. Every young person deserves to feel valued, supported and listened to,” says Emma Pears, SELFA’s chief officer.

“Parents and carers can make a real difference by creating space for honest conversations, celebrating effort as well as achievement, and reminding children that there are always options and opportunities ahead. Protecting a child’s wellbeing during moments like these helps build the confidence and resilience they’ll carry with them long after school.”

Remember that emotions may be mixed

Every child reacts differently to exam results. Some will be thrilled, while others may feel disappointed, anxious or overwhelmed, even if they achieve the grades they were hoping for. Try to create a calm environment where your child feels able to express how they’re feeling without fear of judgement.

Listening is often more helpful than trying to find immediate solutions. Let them know it’s okay to experience a range of emotions and that you’re there to support them.

Celebrate effort, not just grades

It’s easy to focus on numbers and letters, but exam results don’t tell the whole story. They don’t reflect kindness, creativity, determination or resilience. Take time to recognise the hard work your child has put in over the past year. Celebrate the dedication they showed, the challenges they overcame and the progress they made, whatever the outcome.

Keep things in perspective

Exams don’t define a young person’s worth or determine the rest of their life. If your child is disappointed, remind them that there are often several different ways to reach the same goals. Colleges, apprenticeships, resits, training programmes and alternative courses may all be options worth exploring.

You can contact their school or college to discuss available options and gather as much information as possible before making any decisions. Working through the next steps together can help your child feel less overwhelmed and more confident about moving forward.

Avoid comparisons

Every young person learns differently and develops at their own pace. Comparing your child to siblings, friends or classmates can increase feelings of pressure and self-doubt.

Instead, focus on their individual journey. Encourage them to think about what comes next for them, rather than how their results compare with someone else’s.

Look after their wellbeing

Results day can be emotionally exhausting. Encourage your child to eat well, stay hydrated, spend time outdoors and connect with friends or family they trust. Do something that they enjoy and talk through any worries or concerns.

At SELFA, we believe every child deserves to feel valued, supported and hopeful about their future. Exam results are just one part of a much bigger story. Whether your child is celebrating their achievements or facing unexpected challenges, what they need most is to know they are loved, supported and accepted for who they are.

Read more: How to build your child’s confidence without pressure

How to build your child’s confidence without pressure

29th July 2026

Some children are naturally more confident than others, and there’s nothing wrong with a child being quieter or more reserved, especially if they’re happy and comfortable in themselves.

However, building your child’s confidence can help them feel more secure when trying new things, making friends, expressing their thoughts and handling challenges. With the right support and encouragement, confidence can grow over time, helping children develop the resilience and self-belief they need to thrive.

How we help children build confidence at SELFA

At SELFA, we create opportunities for children and young people to discover their strengths, develop new skills and build positive relationships. Through fun activities, supportive staff and welcoming spaces, children are encouraged to step outside their comfort zones without feeling pressured to be perfect. Every achievement, whether it’s making a new friend or joining in with an activity.

“We build confidence by creating safe, inclusive environments where children and young people feel accepted, valued and able to be themselves,” says Sally Marchant-Derrick, senior programme manager of SELFA Youth Voice and SEND.

“We develop trusted relationships with staff and peers, encourage children to take part at their own pace and celebrate every achievement, no matter how small.”

At SELFA, children and young people are given meaningful opportunities to have their voice heard, influence activities and, particularly within our youth provision, lead sessions and support their peers.

“By trying new experiences, developing friendships and taking on leadership roles, they gain confidence, independence and skills for life,” says Marchant-Derrick.

How confidence supports good mental health

Confidence helps children and young people believe in themselves, build resilience and cope better with challenges, by helping them express their thoughts and feelings more easily.

“Feeling confident also strengthens self-esteem, independence and a sense of belonging, all of which are important foundations for positive mental health and wellbeing,” says Marchant-Derrick. “Confidence gives them the courage to try new things, make friends, overcome challenges and believe in their own abilities.”

Confidence grows when children feel safe, supported and accepted for who they are. Here are some simple, practical ways you can help your child build their confidence.

Be a safe space

It’s essential for a child to know they are loved, valued and accepted for who they are, which will naturally help them become more confident. Confidence grows strongest when children know that making mistakes or having a difficult day doesn’t change how much they are cared for.

Celebrate effort

It’s natural to praise children when they do well, but confidence is strengthened most when we recognise the effort they put in rather than just the outcome. Saying, ‘You worked really hard on that’ or ‘I noticed you kept trying even when it was difficult’ helps children understand that trying, not just winning or succeeding, matters.

Try new things

Confidence can also develop through experience. Trying new things and taking on manageable challenges, whether that’s trying a new activity, learning a new skill or speaking up in a group, helps them realise they are capable of more than they may have thought.

Focus on learning from mistakes

No one gets everything right the first time, and children are no different. Mistakes are an important part of learning and shouldn’t be something to fear. When adults respond calmly to setbacks and encourage children to think about what they’ve learned, children become more resilient. Instead of focusing on failure, they begin to see mistakes as stepping stones towards improvement.

Encourage age-appropriate independence

Giving children age-appropriate responsibilities helps them develop confidence in their own abilities. Whether it’s choosing their clothes, helping prepare a meal or solving a small problem independently, these everyday experiences help send the message that they’re trusted.

Avoid comparisons

Every child develops at their own pace, with their own strengths, interests and personality. Comparing children with siblings, classmates or friends can unintentionally make them feel they aren’t good enough. Instead, celebrate each child’s individual progress. Recognising how far they’ve come, rather than how they compare with others, helps build genuine self-esteem.

We also wrote a blog post about how to help your child enjoy the outdoors, which you can read here.

How to create a routine for children over the holidays

23rd July 2026

The summer holidays are an exciting time for many families, but they can also bring challenges.

After months of following the familiar structure of the school day, six weeks without a routine can feel overwhelming for children. Changes to daily activities, different environments and unexpected plans can all increase anxiety.

The good news is that a routine doesn’t have to be strict to be effective. A predictable and flexible structure can help children feel safe, reduce uncertainty and make the holidays more enjoyable for the whole family.

“Routine matters to children because it creates predictability, helping them understand what to expect and reducing uncertainty and anxiety,” says Emma Pears, SELFA’s chief officer. 

“Consistent routines support emotional security, healthy development, and over time, the growth of self-control and independence. It’s human nature to seek a sense of safety and stability, and routines help meet that need by providing structure and security. At SELFA, although we do different activities, our groups are structured to build this sense of safety – so children and young people can grow in confidence.”

Here are some simple ways to create a summer routine that works for your child.

Start with a visual timetable

A visual timetable is one of the most effective ways to introduce structure during the holidays. It gives children a clear picture of what their day or week will look like and helps prepare them for transitions between activities. You can use a whiteboard and markers, a wall planner or a calendar.

Your timetable can be as simple or detailed as your child needs. Use photographs, symbols, drawings or written words to show activities such as breakfast, getting dressed, outdoor play, lunch, quiet time, visits to family or favourite places, and bedtime.

You can create a daily planner or map out the whole week if your child prefers knowing what is coming next. Remember that routines should be flexible. If plans change, explain the change using your visual timetable where possible to help your child understand what is happening.

Keep key parts of the day consistent

Try to keep wake-up times, mealtimes and bedtimes as consistent as possible. Children often cope better when they know these key moments will happen at roughly the same time each day, even if other activities change.

A regular bedtime routine, such as reading a story, listening to calming music or having a bath, can also help children settle more easily after busy summer days.

Plan activities around your child’s needs

You don’t need to fill every day with exciting trips. In fact, too many activities can become overwhelming.

Aim for a balance between active outings, quiet time and free play. You might plan one activity each day, such as visiting a local park, baking together, enjoying sensory play or going for a family walk, while leaving plenty of time for relaxation.

If your child finds new experiences difficult, preparing them in advance with photos or talking through the day’s plans can help reduce anxiety.

We’ve put together a list of free activities to do at home and around Yorkshire.

Include day-to-day responsibilities

Summer is a great opportunity to help children build confidence and independence.

Simple tasks such as helping set the table, watering plants, tidying toys or choosing clothes for the next day can become part of the daily routine. Including these jobs on a visual timetable helps children understand that they are an expected part of the day rather than an unexpected demand.

Balance screen time with other activities

It’s natural for screen time to increase during the holidays, especially for parents and carers juggling work and childcare. Creating clear boundaries can help maintain a healthy balance.

Consider adding screen time to your visual timetable so your child knows when they can watch television or play games and when it’s time for another activity. Alongside screens, encourage opportunities for creative play, reading, outdoor activities or spending time together as a family.

Having predictable times for technology can help make transitions away from devices much easier.

At SELFA, we understand that being outside can be overwhelming for some children – so we’ve put together some tips for helping young people be more confident outdoors.

Remember that every family is different

There is no perfect summer routine. Some days will go smoothly, while others may not go to plan, and that’s completely normal.

The aim isn’t to schedule every minute of the day but to create enough predictability that your child feels secure, understands what to expect and can enjoy the summer break with confidence.

To find out more about what we offer and how we support children, young people and families, explore our website!

Summer Holidays: Free family activities at home and across Yorkshire

15th July 2026

For lots of children, the six-week summer holiday is a welcome break from school. But for parents, it can be a different story – with many looking for activities to keep their kids entertained, while juggling work and more.

At SELFA, we have a fun-packed programme of activities for children and young people, of all abilities, throughout the year, including during school holidays (Easter, Summer and Christmas). Summer 2026 is all booked up, but if you’re still in need of things to do, we’ve put together some fun, free activities!

Skipton Town Hall

Skipton Town Hall has several family-friendly, free events taking place over the summer – and you don’t need to book in advance. You can try weaving on 29th July, make rings and brooches in honour of Pride on 5th August, and more! Check out the website for details: https://skiptontownhall.co.uk/.

Skipton Sheep Trail

Spot the sheep models in the town centre! The Woolly Sheep Trail celebrates the town’s proud wool heritage and features 21 handmade sheep models, each themed after a Skipton business and created by volunteers.

Settle Flowerpot Festival

From Saturday 11th July to Sunday 6th September, Settle comes alive with all sorts of weird and wonderful decorated flowerpots. Have a wander around the town and explore the many countryside walks nearby.

Walks and picnics

Nicole Morgan, a children & young people’s worker at SELFA, recommends packing up a picnic and walking to one of the many trig points around. You can find one near you via the Trigpointing UK website.

“You could also try a scavenger hunt – make a list of things for children to spot and tick them off, such as red flowers, bugs, birds, green cars, for example. You can do this in a park, on a walk, in a garden – anywhere.”

Also, Morgan adds, many towns and villages have I-spy trails that you can buy or download online.

Cliffe Castle Museum and Park, Keighley

There is a large play area and cafe, as well as extensive fields for outdoor games and paths suitable for those with prams.

Valley Gardens, Harrogate 

Valley Gardens is a 17-acre Grade II listed park famous for its unique floral displays, historic buildings and the highest concentration of mineral springs in the world. It’s free to visit and open year-round.

Fairy Door Hunting, Wycoller Country Park, Lancashire

Technically not in Yorkshire, but searching for hidden fairy doors in Wycoller Country Park is a great way to spend a day outdoors. Try looking at the bases and roots of large trees and don’t forget to knock to see if anyone is home…

Riverside Park activities, Ilkley

Organised by Bradford Council’s Community Play and Activities Development Service, free events will run in Ilkley park and be led by experienced and qualified staff. Activities include bouncy castles, with separate areas for under-fives and older children, swing ball, rounders, mini golf, football, giant snakes and ladders, Connect Four, space hoppers, and many more exciting games.

The sessions will take place from 11am to 3pm at Riverside Park on the following dates: Monday 20th July, Monday 27th July, Monday 3rd August, Monday 10th August, Monday, 17th August, and Wednesday 26th August. 

Pond dipping

You need a net, a try and a magnifying glass, but seeing what you can find in local ponds is always fun. You may be able to borrow these items from schools or community centres.

Barlick beach, Barnoldswick

The temporary beach – a covered pop-up beach in the town centre – is open again this summer. Enjoy digging in the sand, donkeys, entertainment, crafts, markets and more from 21st July to 27th August 2026.

Build an obstacle course

By building simple obstacle courses together, either in your house or in a garden, you can help develop your little one’s motor skills, get them exercising and wear them out too. Try using old blankets and cushions – whatever you have available.

Make a mini garden

Gather petals, leaves and twigs in your garden or in a park to create your own mini garden.

All you need for this activity is somewhere to create your garden, like a paper plate, and access to plants and flowers (that you don’t mind picking).

How to help your kids enjoy the outdoors

6th July 2026

Sometimes, we all want to hide indoors in front of the TV. But when the sun is shining, or even in drizzle, it can make us feel good physically and mentally to step outside. 

At SELFA, we get outside as often as we can, so our children and young people can become more confident about being out and about. In fact, we have a term-time group dedicated to just this – SELFA Go Wild.

SELFA Go Wild is a group for young people aged 15 to 19 who love the outdoors and want to get hands-on with nature. It’s all about exploring, learning and having fun while connecting with nature. It is sponsored by the National Lottery Community Fund.

Steven Freakes, a children & young people’s worker who runs Go Wild, says: “Go Wild members take part in outdoor adventures, explore hidden spots and complete team missions. They learn about the environment and how to make a positive impact.”

The group takes on projects such as planting, creating wildlife habitats or community clean ups. “We also support teamwork, confidence and problem solving. It’s a great opportunity to hang out with friends and have fun outside,” says Freakes.

“There is a level of low confidence with some of the group at times, with some not wanting to be outside but they always rise to the challenge and enjoy the activities, even if that is getting muddy or rained on.”

If your child isn’t confident about playing outside, here are some tips to help them become more comfortable.

Stick to a schedule

Set a specific time for outdoor play each day so it becomes a normal part of life, just like brushing teeth. This can be particularly helpful over the holidays, when children and young people are out of their ‘normal’ school routine.

Start small

Go for a simple 10-minute walk around before moving to longer adventures in larger parks.

Keep it fun

You could try going on a treasure hunt and giving them a list of things to find – smooth stones, orange leaves, long sticks and more. 

Help them connect with nature

Playing with a focus on nature can help children feel more connected with the outdoors. You could give them a magnifying glass to look at bugs, or help them identify flowers or birds.

“Over the past few months we have built bird feeders and bird boxes, and then taken them out into local wooded areas and installed them for the local wildlife,” says Freakes. “We have also made wild flower seed bombs and dispersed them in the local environment.”

Go Wild members have told us that they enjoy getting out in nature, with one adding: “It feels good to know that the birds will have some food during winter.”

Let them be loud

Parks give kids the space to run, shout, and be loud without breaking indoor rules.

Make the most of mud

Rain doesn’t necessarily mean staying indoors! You could try making a mud kitchen with old pots, spoons and water so they can make ‘food’.

Try planting

Planting seeds is a fun activity, especially when they start to grow. “Most recently we have been planting some plants and flowers in pots to have around Flourish for the enjoyment of the students there and also planted potatoes which once grown we will cook and eat,” says Freakes.

You don’t need a garden, either. Plenty of herbs, fruits and vegetables like tomatoes or chillies grow in pots on balconies, by front doors, or on windowsills. Your area may also have a community garden that children can explore, too. Check out Incredible Edible Skipton and their volunteer community growing project.

Visit our website for more information about our groups and activities for children, young people and families.

Small Charity Week: How SELFA makes a big difference for children in North Yorkshire

22nd June 2026

This Small Charity Week, we wanted to shine a light on the big difference we make in the lives of children, young people and families across Skipton, Craven and North Yorkshire.

Over the past year, SELFA has supported 763 children, young people, parents and carers.

An average of 196 children and young people came through our doors every single week.

Thanks to our holiday provision, 398 children and young people accessed holiday activities.

But our impact is about much more than just numbers.

Why small charities matter

One of the many things we do is provide one-to-one mentoring sessions for children and young people with mild to moderate mental health needs, delivered by trained counsellors in a safe and supportive environment.

Mark, age 5, was referred to the Mighty Minds programme by his school following a difficult period at home and a noticeable decline in his emotional wellbeing. He received six in-school mentoring sessions.

At first, he struggled to engage, but through therapeutic play, creative activities, and mindfulness techniques, he gradually became more comfortable expressing his emotions.

After 6 weeks, Mark was eager to attend sessions and showed clear improvements in emotional regulation and communication. Both school staff and SELFA observed positive changes, with Mark better able to identify and share his feelings, recover more quickly from distress and participate more positively in school life.

His teacher praised his progress and sought further information about support for other pupils.

For SELFA staff, one of the greatest strengths of a small charity is the ability to see the direct impact of their work.

“Small charities are so special because of the team that they assemble. Everyone working in the same mindset to produce the best outcomes we can, especially for the young people and families that our charity supports.“

– Michaela Jacques, SELFA children and young people’s worker

Supporting parents and families

Our work supports parents and carers too.

One parent who attended our former group for dads, told us: “SELFA created a space where parents feel able to share their experiences, access support and build resilience. The sessions made a meaningful and positive difference.”

Every number represents a child, young person or family receiving the support they need. This Small Charity Week, we’re proud of the difference we’re making together and grateful to everyone who helps make it possible.

Social media ban for under-16s: A positive step, but more must be done

16th June 2026

The UK government has announced plans to ban social media use for children under the age of 16, with Prime Minister Sir Keir Starmer stating that the measures are expected to come into force in early 2027.

The government says the ban is designed to improve online safety and protect children and young people from the harms associated with social media.

At SELFA, we welcome efforts to make the online world safer for young people. Through our work, we have seen first-hand the impact that social media use and exposure to harmful online content can have on children’s mental health, wellbeing and self-esteem.

Young people can be exposed to unrealistic expectations, cyberbullying, harmful imagery and content that can contribute to anxiety, low mood and poor mental health.

Emma Pears, SELFA’s chief officer, says:

“The social media ban for under-16s is a positive step. We see so many young people struggling with their self-confidence, mental health and wellbeing as a result of the pressures they face online.

“Reducing exposure to harmful content and unhealthy comparisons can help create a safer environment for children to grow and develop.

“But this must be accompanied by education, support for families and greater responsibility from social media platforms to ensure young people are protected both online and offline.”

What social media platforms will be banned?

The proposed ban will apply to major social media platforms including Snapchat, TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, X and YouTube. While the government has not yet published a full list of affected platforms, the restrictions are expected to cover services whose primary purpose is social interaction and user-generated content.

“At the moment, it seems that messaging services such as WhatsApp and Signal are not currently included. However, we know that these messaging platforms can still negatively affect children and young people, for example, by providing a space for hidden bullying.”

Alongside the ban, the government plans to introduce additional safeguards. These include preventing under-16s from livestreaming, blocking functions that allow strangers to contact children, and exploring measures such as overnight curfews and limits on infinite scrolling. 

The success of these measures will depend largely on effective enforcement. The government has said that social media companies will be required to use age-verification systems, potentially including age-estimation technology, facial age checks or identification documents. Ofcom has been tasked with identifying the most effective methods of age assurance.

Although these proposals represent a significant and welcome step forward, Pears says they are not a complete solution.  

“Protecting young people’s mental health online will also require continued investment in education, parental support, and accessible mental health services. Technology companies have a key role to play in creating a safer online environment.”

Lasting change will require a broader commitment to supporting young people’s wellbeing both online and offline.

What we do at SELFA children’s charity

SELFA provides activities for children and young people from school age up to 18, or up to 25 for those with SEND. Eligible participants either live or attend school in North Yorkshire, or are registered with a GP practice in Craven.

We provide health & wellbeing programmes, targeted holiday activities, peer-support groups and mental health support for children and young people.

Check out the groups we offer here.

Pride 2026: Four things we do to help LGBTQI+ young people feel they belong

10th June 2026

It’s not easy to be an LGBTQI+ young person. Often, they face increased ostracisation, social isolation and discrimination, which all have a serious impact on their mental health. Studies suggest these problems can be exacerbated in rural areas like Craven.

Our own research has shown that young LGBTQ+ people in Craven and North Yorkshire experience heightened stigma. One individual told us it was easier to “pretend I’m not who I really am as it is easier for my mental health than being bullied”.

At SELFA, we want to make sure all our young people feel respected, valued and able to be themselves. So, we make sure our groups, activities and services are inclusive of all sexualities, gender identities, expressions and more.

As we celebrate Pride, we’re sharing four ways we help LGBTQI+ young people feel seen, supported and that they truly belong.

Listen with empathy

Creating inclusive services means listening to people’s experiences without judgement and taking their concerns seriously.

For LGBTQI+ young people, feeling heard can make a significant difference to improving mental wellbeing. This is especially important as LGBTQ+ young people are twice as likely to experience poor mental health compared to others. Additionally, 43% of LGBTQ+ pupils in the UK are bullied in school because of their identity, making them feel unsafe.

At SELFA, we create safe spaces where young people can feel comfortable sharing their thoughts, challenges, ideas and aspirations. This is why our youth groups, like our Youth Board and Youth Action groups, frequently contribute to and shape the services we offer.

Use the correct language

Making sure we respect people’s pronouns isn’t just polite, it’s essential to make sure they feel understood and that they belong. This is one of our key focuses at SELFA – as a sense of belonging is key to improving young people’s wellbeing, quality of life and futures.

Using inclusive language also means avoiding assumptions about someone’s identity, relationships or experiences. By creating an environment where young people can share how they identify and how they would like to be addressed, we help build trust and demonstrate respect.

“We make sure every group and activity is inclusive, welcoming, and affirming,” says Catherine Williams, SELFA’s programme manager for mental health. “We use inclusive language and practices so young people feel respected and seen.”

Evolve with the needs of young people

We’re constantly reviewing what works best for the children and young people we support. Sometimes, what was considered inclusive a few years ago may not fully reflect the experiences of young people today – so if things need to be changed or improved, we make sure we do so. Being inclusive is a life-long commitment, not a one-off pledge.

Embed equality into culture

Although we’re posting this blog during Pride, SELFA is an inclusive charity every day of the year. It is reflected throughout our culture, policies and everyday practice. We make sure our staff and volunteers receive appropriate training, our activities are designed to be welcoming and accessible to everyone.

What is SELFA Youth Action?

(Years 7 to 9, Flourish/former Ings School, Wednesdays, 6pm)

The Youth Action provides an opportunity for young people to be active in making change happen in the local community on issues that matter to them. The group is user-led and champions youth voice and participation.

What is SELFA Youth Board?

(Years 10 to 13, SEND ages 19 to 25, Skipton Town Hall, Saturdays, 10am)

This group gives young people aged 12 to 18 (years 7 to 13) a real voice in decisions, helping shape what SELFA does and how we do it.

Volunteers’ Week 2026: Help us reach more children across Skipton & Craven

3rd June 2026

As we celebrate Volunteers’ Week, everyone at SELFA would like to say a heartfelt thank you to the amazing people who give their time to support local children, young people and families.

Whether they’re helping to run groups, driving minibuses for holiday trips or helping us direct the charity as trustees, their contribution makes a real difference to the lives of those we support.

Last year, 18 volunteers gave their time to SELFA, contributing nearly 700 hours across 289 sessions. Today, we have 16 active volunteers alongside eight trustees helping to guide and support our work.

“Like many charities, SELFA simply couldn’t achieve everything it does without volunteers,” SELFA chief officer Emma Pears said. “Their kindness and generosity helps us reach more people who need support. I want to say a huge thank you to every volunteer who gives their time to SELFA. Your contribution is deeply appreciated.

“If you have ever thought about volunteering, please give it a go. Whether you can spare a few hours a month or more regularly, volunteering is a rewarding way to support your community, meet new people and make a positive difference. It might lead you down a new career path too. Charities need volunteers now more than ever, and every hour of support really does count.”

If you’re interested in joining our team of volunteers, we’d love to hear from you. Whether you can offer a few hours occasionally or make a regular commitment, your support makes a lasting difference to our community.

What you get when you volunteer for a local charity

Volunteering is about giving back, but it can also be a rewarding experience for volunteers themselves.

If you volunteer for SELFA, you can:

• Make a real difference in the lives of local children, young people and families.
• Meet new people and become part of a friendly and supportive team.
• Develop new skills and gain valuable experience for your CV.
• Build confidence by taking on new challenges and responsibilities.
• Support your local community and help create positive opportunities for others.
• Improve your wellbeing through meaningful activity and social connection.
• Share your existing skills and knowledge to help a cause you care about.
• Enjoy a sense of achievement from knowing your time is making a difference.
• Have fun while taking part in activities, events and projects.

GCSEs: Why safe spaces are so important during exam season

27th May 2026

It goes without saying that the school exam period is a stressful time. But with the right support, young people can feel calmer and better equipped to cope with the pressures that GCSEs can bring.

For many young people, exam stress goes far beyond revision timetables and practice papers. Worry, anxiety and the fear of failure can quickly begin to affect mental health and wellbeing, which is why safe spaces are so important during this time.

According to a recent study by University College London, the pressure to achieve at school at age 15 is linked to depression and self-harm – with depressive symptoms continuing for years into adulthood.

At SELFA, we make sure our young people are supported emotionally during these challenging periods. We also help children build resilience and provide a safe space for them to decompress and talk about worries.

How we create safe spaces at SELFA

During exam season, young people can often feel overwhelmed by expectations from school, social media and even themselves. Having access to safe spaces where they feel listened to, supported and accepted can make a huge difference.

These spaces give young people the chance to step away from pressure, regulate their emotions and talk openly about how they are feeling without fear of judgement. They can also help reduce feelings of isolation and remind young people that they do not have to cope alone.

All of our groups provide children and young people with a safe, welcoming and inclusive space where they can talk about worries. Our staff are always supportive and able to respond to what each young person needs. Young people are also encouraged to share their thoughts and have a say, giving them some control and choice that they don’t always get in everyday life.

We also spend time helping people build positive relationships, so young people can form friendships and a sense of belonging. “We play games that promote teamwork, and practise being kind to each other and ourselves,” says Nicole Morgan, a children and young people’s worker at SELFA.

We also give them a chance to switch off from school work with fun, creative activities!

And being trauma-informed means we empathetically listen and understand what people have been through.

 Maya Whitton, SELFA’s Youth Development Worker, says having someone to talk to can make a real difference during exam season.

“Keeping a normal routine can help your mental health and wellbeing, and keep attending clubs if you can,” she says. “For parents, ask what your child needs and how you can help. Make sure they take rest breaks while revising.”

Check out the groups and activities we offer to support wellbeing here.

How we help young people build leadership skills for the future

19th May 2026

Leadership doesn’t always mean standing at the front of a room. It can be as simple as having the confidence to speak up about an issue, supporting others, sharing ideas, taking responsibility or trying something new.

At SELFA, we understand that leadership skills help young people build confidence, communicate effectively, solve problems and believe in their own abilities. Research shows that leadership qualities help to build resilience and empathy – and help children become aware of their own values, strengths and emotions.

This is why we run groups like Community Champs – a community–focused programme offering primary-age children the opportunity to learn, give back and, most importantly, have fun.

Why are leadership skills important for children and young people?

“For me, leadership skills aren’t about being the loudest or being ‘in charge’, they’re the small, everyday things,” says SELFA chief officer Emma Pears.

“It’s learning how to speak up when something doesn’t feel right, listening to other people, working things out when things go wrong, and supporting others. It’s also about building the confidence to have a go, even when you’re not sure. At SELFA, this happens naturally through relationships with trusted adults and experience.”

Leadership skills are so important because they give young people control over their lives and choices. It gives them the confidence to express what they need and make decisions for themselves. This has a knock-on, positive impact on their mental health.

“When young people realise their voice matters, you can see a real difference in their confidence and wellbeing,” says Pears.

What is Community Champs?

SELFA’s Community Champs group encourages children (in years 2 and 3) to develop their own voice, leadership skills and a sense of belonging, and provides social and emotional learning experiences.

Michaela Jacques, a SELFA children and young people’s worker who runs Community Champs, says: “Community Champs helps children develop leadership by giving them real opportunities to make decisions, plan activities and take action on the issues they care about in their community. As their confidence grows, they begin to see that their ideas matter and that they can make a positive difference to the world around them.”

Through hands-on projects and activities, children develop leadership and teamwork skills, grow confidence in sharing their ideas and speaking up and take part in social action projects like litter picking.

The programme is child-led, with activities designed and shaped together – like making posters about kindness, or baking treats for local key workers. It’s a chance for children to build friendships, discover their voices and feel proud of the difference they can make to their community.

Community Champs isn’t our only group that focuses on developing leadership skills. We also have:

SELFA Youth Board

This group gives young people aged 12 to 18 (years 7 to 13) a real voice in decisions, helping shape what SELFA does and how we do it.

Young Evaluators

Young Evaluators are young people aged 14 to 25 who help assess what is working in SELFA’s services by collecting feedback and sharing their views, so the charity can improve and stay genuinely youth-led. They do this by visiting SELFA groups alongside SELFA Trustees, gathering feedback from other young people, monitoring sessions, and evaluating their experiences to help shape the future direction of SELFA’s groups.

Saturday Leaders

This group allows older children and young people with SEND to build confidence and independence in a way that works for them.

“What matters is that it’s not rushed or forced, it grows at their pace, in a space where they feel safe and understood,” says Pears. “A lot of young people we work with don’t see themselves as leaders at first, but they already have these skills, they just need the space to grow them.”

Check out the groups we offer here.

Mental Health Awareness Week: Six common myths about children’s wellbeing

11th May 2026

One in five children and young people experience mental health challenges – and this number is on the rise.

At SELFA, we offer a variety of support to children and young people experiencing low intensity mental health needs across Skipton and surrounding area. This is delivered through one-to-one and group support in schools and community settings.

On Mental Health Awareness Week, we want to debunk some common misconceptions and shed light on the truths behind children’s mental health.

❌ Myth: Children are too young to feel anxious

✅ Fact: Anyone can experience anxiety, stress and worry, even young children

Children can experience anxiety as a normal reaction to changes, such as starting nursery or school. They can also experience social anxiety, for example, if they’re in busy or loud environments. Children might not be able to put their feelings into words, but anxiety can manifest in many ways – like headaches and stomach aches, wanting to avoid school, irritability or anger.

“Big feelings don’t wait for age, they show up when something feels too much, and children often express that through their bodies and behaviour long before they can explain it,” says SELFA chief officer Emma Pears.

❌ Myth: Children will “grow out of” mental health problems

✅ Fact: Some worries or phases pass, but not all mental health difficulties disappear on their own

Conditions like anxiety or depression can persist and even worsen without support. Early understanding and help from parents, teachers, or professionals can make a significant difference in long-term wellbeing.

❌ Myth: You only need to take care of your mental health if you have a mental health condition

✅ Fact: Everyone can benefit from taking active steps to promote their wellbeing

“Everyone can take active steps and engage in healthy habits to optimise their physical health,” says Cat Williams, SELFA’s programme manager for mental health.

“Mental health is part of being human. It shifts with stress, sleep, hormones, relationships, work, money worries, life changes and it deserves the same everyday care we give our bodies.”

❌ Myth: ‘Bad’ behaviour is just naughtiness, not a sign of distress

✅ Fact: Children often communicate emotions through behaviour because they don’t yet have the language to explain how they feel

Strong emotions like anger, withdrawal or defiance can sometimes be signals of underlying stress, anxiety or unmet emotional needs, not simply ‘bad behaviour’.

❌ Myth: Talking about mental health will put ideas into a child’s head

✅ Fact: Open, age-appropriate conversations actually help children feel safe and understood

Asking about feelings doesn’t create problems. It makes it easier for children to share what’s already there and seek support when they need it.

❌ Myth: Good parenting prevents children from developing mental health problems

✅ Fact: Even in loving, supportive families, children can experience mental health challenges

All sorts of factors can contribute to the development of mental health problems, like school and social pressures and life events. What does make a difference is how adults respond – listening, validating feelings and seeking support when needed are all essential.

How SELFA supports children’s mental health

Our children & young people’s workers are passionate about providing early intervention support. They provide a calm, safe space to help the child or young person create positive coping strategies, explore and understand difficult emotions, and engage in peer support.

You can check out our groups and activities here: https://www.selfa.org.uk/what-we-offer/

What is rebound therapy?

5th May 2026

At SELFA, we support children with SEND (Special Educational Needs and Disabilities) in a variety of ways – including offering rebound therapy. But what exactly is this, and what are the benefits?

“Rebound therapy is a therapeutic exercise that uses a trampoline to improve physical and sensory functioning,” says Maya Whitton, SELFA’s youth development worker.

“At SELFA, it is used in our weekend SEND sessions to use it as a physiotherapy tool for enjoyment and dysregulation – by helping children to manage their emotional responses.”

Essentially, rebound therapy is the specialised use of trampolines to help children and adults with movement, balance, muscle use, communication and sensory integration (the brain’s process of organising sensations from the body and environment).

It’s suitable for individuals with a wide range of additional needs, including those who are autistic, people with ADHD and those with physical disabilities.

How does rebound therapy work and what are the benefits?

In rebound therapy, the trampoline works as a moving, responsive surface that interacts with the body. So when someone bounces on it, they experience changes in pressure, gravity and motion.

Moving on a trampoline requires balance, so it helps to stimulate the joints and muscles in a supported way and helps the user improve their coordination and control. Rhythmic bouncing is gentle exercise that can also help to calm the nervous system, which can help with challenges such as sensory overstimulation.

Rebound therapy helps sensory processing by boosting the body’s vestibular (balance) and proprioceptive (body awareness) systems. These help the brain process movement and spatial information more effectively.

And it’s also fun – and the freedom of movement helps to boost confidence and self-esteem.

“It can also improve engagement and encourage interaction with peers. It can help to relax tense muscle tone,” says Whitton. “It is part of our weekend SEND service that we use to improve social interactions, and it becomes an adaptable part of our provision.”

Importantly, rebound therapy isn’t the same as simply bouncing on a trampoline. Our staff are specially trained to provide rebound therapy using a structured framework so it is safe for each child and young person – and is adapted to suit their individual needs.

To find out more about our weekend SEND provision, click here: https://www.selfa.org.uk/what-we-offer/term-time-activities/

Why physical activity matters for young people: How SELFA supports health, confidence and wellbeing

10th April 2026

At SELFA, we know how important it is for children and young people to be active. Not only is exercise good for physical health, it has huge benefits for mental health too – and acts as a natural mood booster by releasing feel-good hormones that reduce stress and anxiety.

Despite this, very few young people get enough exercise, particularly across the North. According to a report by universities including the University of Bradford, nearly a third of children and young people in England are classed as inactive, achieving less than an average of 30 mins of physical activity per day.

There are many reasons why this is, from increased academic pressure at school to a lack of safe, accessible, and affordable places to play outside. Around 540,000 children in the UK – 5-6% of young people – have clinically significant difficulties with movement skills which negatively impact their ability to engage with physical activity and education.

How we get active at SELFA

This is where we step in – supported by generous organisations like the Hargreaves Foundation. Established in 2020, this grant-making charitable foundation helps charities that provide sport and education opportunities to young people under 18 who are living with mental health challenges, physical disabilities or the effects of poverty.

Thanks to their support, we’ve managed to hire sports coaches, support staff for exercise-focused activities, activity days, healthy snacks, transport for rurally-isolated young people to and from venues, sports kits, and more.

“Physical exercise and movement is an essential part of development for children and young people,” says Nicole Morgan, a children & young people’s worker at SELFA. “It’s very much part of what we do, whether it’s a short circle game to close the session, a ten-minute movement break or a full game of football rounders. 

“Movement brings the group together, teaches them to communicate and work as a team whilst building the resilience that children need to prepare them for everyday life.”

The school holidays can be a difficult time for many vulnerable children, who may not have the opportunities to stay active. So, we make sure we have plenty of fun activities planned. This year, children from North Craven Primary took part in football zorbing, indoor and outdoor climbing, swimming, golf and walks in the beautiful Yorkshire countryside.

“Behaviour is the thing that is most impacted by physical exercise,” says Morgan. “Children who ordinarily struggle to regulate are suddenly able to problem solve, support their friends and concentrate fully on the task at hand, it is amazing to see! I find the children thrive and grow so much in confidence whilst stepping out of their comfort zone, trying something new and moving.”

How we support mums at SELFA

13th March 2026

Supporting mums is part of our DNA at SELFA.

In 2007, our CEO Emma Pears founded SELFA while working for North Yorkshire County Council. As a mum herself, she understood the mental health needs of children, particularly those in the local area, and recognised that parents, especially mothers, also need support for families to truly thrive.

That’s why we run a weekly parents’ group, giving parents a safe space to talk openly about the challenges they’re facing and the emotions they’re experiencing. It’s an opportunity to unwind over a coffee, connect with others, and realise they’re not alone.

It’s also part of SELFA’s wider wellbeing approach. Our policy focuses on creating a supportive environment where staff can thrive, which includes offering flexibility so people can balance work with family life. This is something that’s especially important for many of our team who are parents.

Peer support for parents

Talking about our problems isn’t always easy, especially as a parent. There is a huge amount of pressure to be the ‘perfect’ mum – something we all know is impossible. And when we’re struggling, it can make us feel guilty, ashamed and lonely.

Sometimes, emotions can feel so overwhelming that it’s difficult to find the motivation to talk them out, or we may worry about being ignored or judged. However, being listened to in an empathetic environment such as a peer support group like our parents’ group can have powerful psychological benefits.

A problem shared is often said to be a problem halved and research suggests this is true. Often, talking to others about a difficulty can help you think it through, while making the emotions and feelings associated with a problem seem less overwhelming.

Studies have shown peer support, particularly within mental health services, can lead to an increased sense of hope and a feeling of empowerment, and lessen feelings of isolation.

Why mums need support more than ever

Whether you’ve got a newborn or a teenager, all mums need support from like-minded people.

Record numbers of women are trying to access perinatal mental health support. As many as one in five mums experiencing mental health problems such as anxiety and depression. Some research suggests 80 to 90% of new mothers feel lonely, with one study finding that more than a third of new mothers in the UK spend eight hours a day alone with their babies.

All stages of parenthood come with unique challenges, from potty training and toddler tantrums to teenage development and emotions.

At SELFA, we give mums (and dads) the chance to talk about these things openly, without judgement. After all, we’re all just trying to do our best to navigate the highs and lows of being a mum.

What we offer parents at SELFA

Parents Together: A friendly space for parents and carers of children with additional needs or vulnerabilities to chat, share experiences and support each other.

Tuesdays 10 – 11.30am at Coopers Cafe Bar, Skipton

Parents’ Pathways: A structured weekly programme where parents and carers build skills, share strategies and grow family wellbeing and confidence.

Thursdays 9 – 11am at Quaker Meeting House, Skipton

Dads’ group: A relaxed supportive group where dads share experiences, build confidence, support each other and discuss ways to support their children’s wellbeing.

Tuesdays 6 – 7.30pm at Quaker Meeting House, Skipton

SELFA Springboard: How we support young adults

11th March 2026

At SELFA, we have more than 20 different groups for children, young adults and parents. It can be hard to know which one is right for you – so this week, we’re shining a spotlight on SELFA Springboard!

What is SELFA Springboard?

Springboard is a health project designed to tackle the health inequalities faced by young adults. We support people aged 18 to 25 to stay healthy, build brighter futures and help ease pressure on the NHS.

During term time, we run weekly sessions in Skipton that focus on supporting mental and physical wellbeing, while also helping young people build confidence, develop new skills, strengthen self-esteem and work towards their goals.

The group is for individuals who have learning disabilities, and/or who are neurodivergent, and/or have mental health support needs.

Springboard is funded by Core20PLUS5, a national NHS England approach managed by the Reducing Inequalities Alliance which aims to reduce healthcare inequalities. 

So far, we have received two years of funding to support young people across the Craven area. We’d like to extend a huge thank you for their support – thanks to this funding, we’ve been able to offer a wide range of activities that promote good health and wellbeing, from crafts and exercise classes to talks and trips.

Springboard also welcomes visits from health professionals who help educate our members about staying mentally and physically healthy. These include doctors, social prescribers, NHS workers who connect people with community-based activities and groups to support their wellbeing, as well as mental health practitioners and dentists.

“We’ve had sessions with sculptors and done a group art installation at Craven Arts House – which is something to be proud of!” says Sarah Astin, a key worker for young adults and parents at SELFA.

“We have also done planting workshops and poetry writing with the Buzzing Skipton project. We’ve also done a seated dancing class with Skipton Step Into Action. We have a gym induction next week and we encourage our young people to enjoy physical exercise. We often visit libraries, so members can choose books based on their own interests.”

Why is SELFA Springboard so important for the community?

Young people in the UK face significant challenges, including rising poverty, increasing mental health problems and often, a lack of access to necessary support.

Our own research has found that there is a lack of accessible mental health services in rural areas like Skipton and the Craven area. This need can’t simply be addressed through more NHS or Local Authority staff, as more services are just not viable for such a sparse population.

“At Springboard, we focus on building resilience, developing social skills, and educating people about self care, nutrition and physical exercise,” says Astin.

“People form friendships and gain a sense of togetherness. We share feelings and talk about our emotions in a safe space,” she adds. “We also help our young adults access wider community groups and activities outside of Springboard. All of these things develop independence and give people better access to employment opportunities and work experience.”

World Book Day: The Power of Libraries in Supporting Mental Health

3rd March 2026

At SELFA, we understand the power of a good book. Whether it’s a fantasy novel or a mystery that you just can’t put down, reading is a wonderful way to escape to another world.

Reading is also a great way to support your mental health – which is why we love helping our children and young people discover the magic of books.

World Book Day is here, so it’s an ideal time to explore why books are so important to us at SELFA.

Why we work with community libraries

Libraries are free community hubs that give communities the chance to learn by providing access to books, technology and information. They’re also safe spaces to read for enjoyment, study or simply enjoy some quiet time. At SELFA, we work with libraries in Skipton, Settle and other areas around Craven.

“Every half term, the library delivers a fresh selection of books to our sessions — giving young people the chance to explore new stories, discover different topics, and find books that match their interests and needs,” says Sally Marchant-Derrick, SELFA’s programme manager for Youth Voice & SEND (Special Educational Needs and Disabilities).

We’ve also taken our groups to explore larger libraries, including the main library at York St John University. These visits not only inspire children and young people to develop a love of books and reading, but also broaden their horizons – encouraging further study and helping them imagine new possibilities for their future.

James, of our Year 6 Inspire group, told us: “I didn’t think university would be something I wanted to do but being here has made me think I could do it. I like the idea of studying engineering by myself and meeting others who want to do the same job as me.”

How reading supports good mental health

Reading reduces stress

A 2009 study by Mindlab International at the University of Sussex found that reading for just six minutes can reduce stress levels by up to 68%. It was even more effective than listening to music, taking a walk or drinking tea (although those are good for your wellbeing, too). The focus needed to follow a story takes your attention away from worries, which helps you relax. So, just a few minutes of getting lost in a book can provide a sense of calm.

Reading improves cognitive function

When you read, you train your brain to focus. This can improve your overall cognitive function, which not only helps with mental clarity but also supports long-term mental health. In fact, a study published in 2023 found children who begin reading for pleasure early in life tend to perform better at cognitive tests and have better mental health when they enter adolescence.

Books help you reflect

A good book can provide a well-needed escape from reality, but reading can also help you understand yourself better. Self-help books can give us helpful advice, educational books provide us with information and fictional characters can give us insights into problems and solutions.

World Book Day is a great reason to pick up a book and get reading – especially for children and young people.

Happy reading!

How we support girls’ wellbeing with the Health Lottery Foundation

12th January 2026

From school and social media pressures to harassment and cyberbullying, it’s not an easy time to be a girl. Young women face a multitude of challenges that all contribute to rising mental health issues, such as anxiety and depression.

At SELFA, we understand how challenging life can be as a young person. This is why we’ve launched our SELFA Wellness group for girls and women aged 11 to 19 with the financial support of The Health Lottery Foundation.

With their generous £15,000 grant, our year-long project will support young women and girls aged 11-19, particularly those with Emotionally Based School Avoidance (EBSA) and autism, through creative and therapeutic activities.

“In the group, we use drama, movement and poetry to improve emotional regulation, self-expression, and communication skills,” says Emma Pears, CEO of SELFA children’s charity.

“It is designed for those who struggle with traditional mental health support, offering an alternative approach to promote emotional wellbeing and resilience for those facing complex challenges.”

The group also uses somatics, which focuses on awareness of physical sensations and how they relate to mental and emotional states to release tension and trauma.

“Our goal is to help young people build confidence, resilience and a greater understanding of their emotions, while fostering positive relationships and a sense of belonging,” adds Pears. “It also promotes mental health awareness and provides early intervention.”

In the UK, there’s a desperate need for more gender-specific support for girls, especially those from marginalised communities. Our SELFA Wellness group helps girls understand key issues that affect their health and wellbeing, including body image and hormonal changes. 

And importantly, we provide a safe space for girls to have fun! SELFA Wellness is an opportunity to make friends, gain confidence and build resilience through activities like sports, cooking, crafts, trips and community-based projects. Like many of our groups, those attending have a direct say in the kinds of activities they do – so we know exactly what they want and need.

As a small, grassroots charity, we hugely appreciate the support we get from organisations like The Health Lottery Foundation. Without their backing, we couldn’t do what we do. So thank you!

New Year fundraising appeal: Help us support children and young people

22nd December 2025

As 2025 draws to an end, we’re full of hope for the future. We want to reach even more children and young people in the Craven area who need our support – and with your help, we can do just that.

Across our communities, many children and young people are facing unprecedented challenges. Anxiety, low mood, school avoidance and the pressures of everyday life continue to impact mental health at an alarming rate. For some, simply getting through the day can feel overwhelming.

At SELFA, we provide safe, nurturing spaces where children and young people can play, talk, be heard, and build confidence, resilience and a sense of belonging. From one-to-one emotional support to group activities and trips, everything we do is shaped around the needs of the children and families we work with, including those with SEND (special educational needs and disabilities).

As we step into the New Year, our mission remains clear: to ensure that no child or young person feels alone in their struggles. But as a small, grassroots charity, we can’t do this without your support.

Whether you choose to donate, fundraise or volunteer, your support helps us reach more young people at the time they need it most. Every contribution, no matter the size, directly supports life-changing services that give children hope, confidence and a brighter future.

How to fundraise for SELFA

There are so many easy and creative ways you can help raise vital funds for SELFA.

How about:

Setting yourself a personal challenge such as a sponsored walk, run, swim, or cycle.

Hosting a bake sale, coffee morning or quiz night with friends, family, or colleagues.

Taking part in a dress-down day at work or school.

Setting up a JustGiving page and sharing it with your supporters.

Fundraising as a team through your workplace, sports club or community group.

Every small action adds up – thank you for being part of our journey!

Our 2025 highlights: How SELFA supported children and young people this year

15th December 2025

To say that it has been a busy year is an understatement! Our team have been working hard to make sure children and young people in the Craven area get the support they need, from wellbeing and activity groups to trips and more.

As we say goodbye to 2025, here are just a few of our favourite moments from this year:

Karen Martin, head of operations

“In October, our Wellness girls group stepped up to co deliver a session on resilience. They came equipped with their own resources and session plan, and made sure that everyone could engage in the session. I am incredibly proud of how they have both thrived to achieve and supported their peers to build their own resilience.”

Michaela Jacques, children & young people’s worker

“My highlight of this year is seeing how settled and happy the children and young people with SEND (special educational needs and disabilities) has become! All making friendships, trying new things and just being happy and content in their environment.”

Sarah Astin, keyworker – young adults & parents

“Our Springboard group (for ages 18-25) had a wonderful adventure on a residential trip to Malham youth hostel in March. They did drawing at the top of the cove, used fishing nets, took part in scavenger hunts and did a walk on a bright day. They also did workshops with Jo from Yorkshire Dales Millennium Trust. Cooking and sharing meals together. Every week they ask when the next residential trip will be.”

Emma Pears, CEO

“My highlight for 2025 has been welcoming all the new staff to Team SELFA! They brings unique skills and experiences that will strengthen our work supporting families and young adults in Craven. Also, a huge shout-out to our existing team, whose experience and commitment keep SELFA thriving. With our new colleagues joining in, we’re even stronger and ready to make an even bigger impact in our community.”

Nicole Morgan, children & young people’s worker

“My highlight this year was definitely the summer holidays! So many days spent climbing, swimming, and getting the kids outdoors. Watching them grow in confidence, build resilience, make new friendships, and truly thrive was amazing. The sunshine, the laughter, the little victories – such a great reminder of how powerful time outside can be.”

Holly Simm, children & young people’s worker

“Seeing the children in our Starters group (for primary-age children) build amazing friendships and grow in confidence. It’s been wonderful to see them open up, support each other and realise how amazing they are in their own unique way. A big win has been helping them see that the little things they do really matter- whether it’s being kind, working together, or sharing ideas.”